When I first heard about crystal pleasure wands I was pretty skeptical. On the one hand, I do believe in the energetic benefits of crystals and their ability to help us connect with our deeper selves. But on the other hand, I thought why the fuck would anyone want to stick a cold, hard piece of rock up their pussy?
But my curiosity got the better of me and I was keen to try something new so I thought fuck it, why not? There are only mind-blowing orgasms to come out of this right?
Let's just say the experience was unlike any other! It's difficult to articulate how powerful the experience really was, but I'll do my best!
I found the whole experience of using the crystal pleasure wand to be quite ritualistic. There’s around 12 hours of preparation involved before you can use it for the first time - cleansing it, charging it in the sun and/or moonlight, setting an intention. But don't let that turn you off. This might all sound a bit 'woo woo' but doing all of this actually made me feel more sexually empowered and removed any prior shame I felt about self-pleasuring. I was taking control of my sexuality and taking conscious steps towards opening myself up to pleasure.
So, my crystal was cleansed, charged and ready to go. Usually, when I self-pleasure it’s a pretty thoughtless act of just 'getting it done' (which don't get me wrong, sometimes that's all we want). But with the wand, I wanted to create a calm and relaxing space where I could go on an erotic journey and really submit to pleasure. I closed the blinds, lit some candles and played some soft, soothing music.
As a way of connecting with the crystal and my body, I first placed the wand over my heart. Rose quartz is known for opening up your heart chakra which is important for 2 reasons: it helps you to feel deeply connected to yourself and the energies around you, and it allows you to experience unconditional love by transcending your ego. Both really important if you want to open yourself up to having mind-blowing sex with yourself! Also, the wand being a crystalline object is initially quite cool to touch so by holding it against your heart space first, you can begin to warm the crystal with your own body heat.
Once I felt ready, I began gently gliding it down my body towards my yoni. The first stroke against her was still quite cool and it made me gasp. But it was a soothing coolness that I enjoyed and brought all my attention to what I was feeling between my legs. Using a little saliva as lubrication, I began to glide the wand over my clit and inner lips giving the whole area a gentle massage. The feeling was sensual, delicate and insatiable. My breath became shorter and my heartbeat was growing stronger.
I felt like my whole body was going to explode. My Divine Feminine had risen and her energy was pulsing through my veins.
The journey from here is actually really hard for me to articulate. Using the wand to massage my internal walls, g-spot and cervix I felt like my whole body was going to explode. My Divine Feminine had risen and her energy was pulsing through my veins. I felt electric, a little dizzy and really wet….
The orgasm was, of course, mind-blowing and took my breath away. I lay on the bed in savasana, completely blissed out and allowed my body to come back to neutral and take in all the benefits of my self-pleasure practice.
My focus with self-pleasuring has always been very goal-oriented. It was always about ‘the big climax’ at the end. But what I realised with using the crystal pleasure wand is that there's so much more to be enjoyed from self-pleasuring! Yes, it’s amazing to reach a climax, but in all my years of self-pleasuring, I’ve been ignoring the incredible orgasmic energy that runs through your body throughout the whole practice.
Using the crystal pleasure wand really helped me to become aware of and connect with that orgasmic energy which is what made the whole experience so energising, liberating, healing and pleasurable.
That energy stayed with me all day and later I had deep, passionate, mind-blowing sex with my husband.
Self-pleasuring with a crystal pleasure wand is a very intuitive process that requires you to really listen to how your body is feeling and what it wants. My best advice for using one is to just roll with it. There's no right or wrong way to self-pleasure with a crystal. Everyone has a different pathway to arousal so do what works for you. And, even if you’re not typically ‘into’ crystals, trust me when I say there is something about using a crystal pleasure wand that makes you feel so deeply connected to your body and allows you to freely access your divine sexual energy. It’s truly a magical experience.